Tell us about a deep soul connection that you’ve experienced.

Truthfully, the deepest soul connection I have ever had was with my ex-husband, back when we first met. That first time of both connecting felt as if the missing piece of a puzzle had been found. We stayed married for 18 years.

What was one of the most soul-opening moments of your life?

This was when each of my children were born, as I held them in my arms and saw the beauty of the part I had in creating them. To this day I stand in awe of each of their accomplishments.


When do you feel your most soulful?

I believe this would have to be with my own self, when I get home from work and take quiet time to read (poetry/stories) by others or to write my poetry or my own writings. I also take time to be with nature on walks and take photos of the most miniscule things and make them beautiful from my eye view.

Where in the world have you felt the most in touch with your own soul?

The ocean! I have always said I must have been one of Poseidon's daughters. The beach and ocean have always called me by name. I love seashells and sea glass.

Who is one of the most soulful people you’ve ever known?

I would have to say my mother. She is a loving and giving soul to everyone!

What qualities do you feel a soulful relationship has?

I believe it would have unconditional love, respect and forgiveness. We as humans are not perfect, we will make mistakes throughout our lives. If you have these qualities in the relationship, then more then likely you will be together for the long haul.

What do you feel your soul’s purpose is?

My soul purpose I believe is to have women believe in themselves, that they are worthy to be, even without a man. So many think that they are nobody unless they are in a relationship, even a bad one. What I am doing today is taking control of my own life one step at a time with my writing, which is in edit stages on my first book, as well as getting my poetry self published. I have an etsy store with a few of my photos and art. I also create jewelry, which I have sold.

What idea or suggestion from the The Soulmate Experience have been the most useful to you?

You talk about changing your beliefs that change your experience. I grew up with a low self-image because of my weight, which after seeing pictures of me in my teens a few years back I was like "Wow I was not fat! I actually was pretty slim." My mind held all those words people said to me of weight, so my self-image was tarnished. No more as I have changed those beliefs and experiences to knowing I am beautiful as I am!

Is there anything else you’d like to share with us?

I am working with an online makeup sales company, geared mostly to the young. So I decided to start a blog for women over 50, Beauty Beyond 50, since I am one also. I also have a poetry blog that includes some of my own photos, an etsy store, and am on twitter at @zoegem. I paint, draw, create jewelry (necklaces and bracelets) and write every day or night. I love nature walks, I love to travel and meet new people. I hope to meet many more of my friends I have made online someday soon. There are still many dreams waiting for fruition.

Thank you, Zully, for being a beautiful example of learning to love who you are. ~Mali & Joe, authors of The Soulmate Experience: A Practical Guide to Creating Extraordinary Relationships52 Prescriptions for Happiness, and the upcoming book The Soulmate Lover, and creators of Mantras for Making Love