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A Woman with Soul: Jo Challacombe

March 4, 2014

LABELS: Soul Interviews / COMMENTS (4)

From the humble beginning of baking magic “love mud-pies” in my childhood street and talking to invisible friends, my interest in all things spiritual and magical has grown into a sincere and almost grown-up life path. I am currently writing my first book, detailing my personal journey as an Indigo adult and have recently launched SprIndigo, a blog providing spiritual inspiration articles for the Indigo soul. The many lessons I have learnt in life have also given me the confidence to undertake hypnotherapy and NLP training so that I can one day fulfill my goal of providing personal development and self-love workshops for my local community.

Tell us about a deep soul connection that you’ve experienced.

JoI find the journey back to your Self is always the deepest connection. I have not always been my best friend. A challenging childhood left many impressions on my soul to help detach me from self-love and my growth into adulthood has been laden with lessons all bringing me back to me.

Like most people experiencing low self-esteem and levels of self-love, I searched for acceptance and love outside of myself for years. I wanted to find my perfect soulmate to make all of my problems go away. Suffice to say, the Creative wouldn’t allow me to skip the important lesson of self acceptance and my quest for my soulmate lead me full circle.

I would love to tell stories of deep connections with wonderful people from all over the world, but my most important lesson has been a more intimate one. Before I could embrace others, I needed to learn to embrace myself. I remember crying the first time I actually turned my awareness inwards and paid attention to my own heart first.

When do you feel your most soulful? Whenever I have the privilege of meeting the diverse mix of people this Earth has to offer and listen to their stories I feel deeply moved. It reminds me that we are all connected; we are all part of the human race. When I hear people’s stories of surviving hardships and simple acts of love towards one another it gives me hope that we can all work together to make a better future for ourselves and our planet. Being around open-hearted people, who are just living their lives the best way they can renews my faith in life and my soul simply glows from the experience.

Where have you felt the most in touch with your own soul? I am fortunate enough to live in the beautiful Devon countryside of the United Kingdom. The farm I live on is surrounded by green fields and I am never far away from bird song, squirrels and trees. The countryside is where my heart is and my soul always feels at peace in this environment. I believe the simplicity is what makes this place special to me. I am happiest when I walk to my local store down a quiet hazel and oak lined lane, which backs onto fields containing my neighbour’s horses. I love passing the squirrels leaping back and forth from the highest branches of the trees, admiring the way the sunlight shines through the trees and taking a moment to listen to the robins perched lower down, chirping about their day. Each small piece of beauty on this walk reminds me I am alive, the world is beautiful and there is much love worth fighting for. There may not be imposing mountains, impressive waterfalls and ancient ruins to stand in awe of, but it is home.

What qualities do you feel a soulful relationship has?

It’s funny that my answer to this question would have been quite different a couple of years ago. If you would have looked at my “bucket list” of things I wanted in my perfect partner you would have read something like this: tall, dark hair, successful business man, intelligent, a lot like Mr. Darcy, brooding — a romance worthy of a movie.

The saying, “be careful what you wish for” is true in this case. I met several of these dashing, tall, dark-haired intelligent men and I fell hopelessly in love with each one. The trouble was; they were not ideal for me. The intelligence was arrogance, the success was unavailability and the Mr. Darcy attributes were not as much fun in real life as they are in a book.

I had never really thought about why I was going after this type of man who would always end up making me feel patronised and resentful. I started to read lots of books on love and that’s when I stumbled upon The Soulmate Experience.

After the first few chapters I was hooked. I came to realise that I was blocking my soulmate from manifesting by projecting my own beliefs about “not being good enough” onto my opinion of the perfect man — this Mr. Darcy stereotype. After reading the book, I understood I needed to do a lot of inner work and I also came to see the qualities discussed in the book: acceptance, mutual growth, unconditional love and “presence” to be qualities I really wanted from a relationship.

What do you feel your soul’s purpose is?

Just recently I have ended my lifelong marathon away from my true purpose and have entered into acceptance of it. I have had my finger in quite a lot of spiritual pies and systems of divination over the years; karmic astrology, numerology, soul contracting and other methods for helping you to realise your true life path. I was desperate to be told what my soul’s purpose was, but I didn’t like the answers I was getting.

JoTime after time, no matter what the system, I would receive the same insights into my life purpose: communication, spiritual teacher, leader, writing, expression, service, love. I didn’t really like that idea of being a spiritual teacher who had to be of service to others, I didn’t feel confident enough to write and I certainly didn’t have much love for people after a particularly difficult childhood. I turned my back on the clues to my soul’s purpose, each time I received them.

One night, I had a dream that gave me the wake-up call I needed. I dreamt of a spirit yelling at me that I was not a musician, actress, singer and all the other ideas of career I had been mulling around in my head at the time. The spirit turned to a wall that showed a timeline of spiritual teachers and prophets over the centuries. He said very clearly to me, “Your job is to be of service, find them and remind them of who they are”. The spirit then told me my secret spiritual name and I woke up with a start.

Since then, I have come to realise that it is my purpose to write about spiritual topics and to inspire light workers to accept themselves as I have learnt to do. I might only be a small acorn on the beginning of my journey so far, but I know I am fully supported to one day become a mighty oak tree!

Is there anything else you’d like to share with us?

For readers of The Soulmate Experience or those wondering if they should read the book, I would like to share that the techniques and practical guidance contained in its pages have helped me to not only see myself differently and realise the true qualities of a healthy relationship, but it has also helped me to improve my friendships and connections with people in general.

Before releasing a lot of my emotional baggage, I had been struggling even in friendships to control my feelings of jealousy and I would frequently get mad at friends if I felt they had not met an expectation I had of them. Through reading Mali and Joe’s wonderful book, I am learning to do things differently and recognise when my own negative self beliefs are affecting the way I treat others. If, like me, you are still waiting for your romantic soulmate, use this time to prepare yourself for great love and to improve the connections you do have in your life by reading this book!

Thank you for your beautiful expression of the power of self-love, dear Jo! (And it feels so perfect that "Jo" means "sweetheart"...) ~Mali & Joe, authors of The Soulmate Experience: A Practical Guide to Creating Extraordinary Relationships52 Prescriptions for Happiness, and the upcoming book The Soulmate Lover, and creators of Mantras for Making Love

Doing My Work

February 27, 2014

LABELS: Wisdom & Inspiration / COMMENTS (1)

Marie Franklin lives with her husband in Portland, Oregon. They met 10 years ago and have been madly in love ever since. Marie is a matchmaker who wants to help others find their Soulmate Experiences, too!

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If you have started down a path in search of the Truth, then you know that certain books will present themselves to you along the way as you increase your understanding.

The Soulmate Experience is one of those books.

I’m a highly spiritual person and have been reading and looking for whatever “the real Truth is” my whole life. And I found rather quickly that if you do sincerely seek the Truth, you will stumble down a path and find it. It is not an overnight journey for most of us. For me, although I’ve been at it my whole life, I am just now really getting somewhere.

The first thing you learn on this path is that all answers must come from within. Which is really confusing, especially when you are holding a book in your hand outside of your body, and it is telling you that the answers you seek are within you. So you respond with “Huh? If the answers were within me then I would already know what I am trying to learn!”

And the next thing you find out is, yes you do already know what you are trying to learn. The Truth is held forever safe and sacred in a spot within you.

Then you find out that in order to find that sacred spot, you must “do your work.”

Your work will be different from anyone else’s work, and you’re the only one who can do yours. But if you do it… if you really do your work and complete most of it… literal treasure awaits you.

Emotional treasure.

The Soulmate Experience is a book for people who are ready to do their work. I think everyone could benefit from this book’s cool and beautiful tone and message. But readers who are on the path to Truth and who are ready and willing to work at the soul level will probably be greatly affected by this book.

As I read it, I was reminded again about so many Truths I have learned along my path.

Be in the present moment.

Treat everyone as a guest.

Release all guilt and resentments.

Don’t play negative tapes in your head all day.

Feel your gratitude.

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When you have begun to do your work, the list above is easier. I’m so glad I found this book right here on my path, because I have at least done enough work to come back to these practices and put them back into place. I haven’t done enough work yet that it is habit to have these in place, though. But I intend to get there. The Soulmate Experience is clearly the right step for me at this time.

When you really are present and loving and treating your life partner as your honored guest, you begin to feel that spot within you. That spot within you where the Truth is forever protected and waiting for you to find it again. When you engage on the soul level you feel yourself begin remember these important truths.

The authors are clearly people who are farther on down the path than I am. They are exactly the type of calm and centered loving people who can really use manifestation techniques well, because they understand how they work and why. After reading the book I went and watched a few clips of Joe and Mali in the Media section of their website, just to get to know them a little better. Seeing them for a few moments, I felt like I knew them and that I could trust them. When people do their work and get on down the path a bit, they can help the rest of us, sometimes just by their mere presence. You can see that they are at peace, and you know that peace might rub off on you a bit.

Readers who may have never been exposed to such metaphysical concepts will be amazed at what is presented in this book. I can imagine it could actually prompt someone onto their own path to Truth.

I am drawn to this book on many levels. The first one is that I am in a Soulmate Experience right now, every day! I am married to the man of my dreams and we are in love on the deep, soul level the book describes. When Joe and Mali are telling us what they “know” about romantic relationships, you can feel their love for each other, but also their ability to love in general. This shines through the book and helps the reader engage with their inner, deepest capacity for love.

Another level this book appeals to me is in the realm of romantic relationships, because I am a dating coach and matchmaker. I can’t wait to give this book to certain clients who I know will be able to use it! For some, this book could be a life changer. If a person can clear the space in their lives for their “guest,” then amazing things can happen.

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The book emphasizes that to engage on a soul level, you have to believe that you deserve it. This is hard for some people. So many of us have felt held back by life or cheated out of good things, especially romantic relationships. Then you don’t know if it is chicken or egg. Did I end up with poor results in the past because I didn’t really think I deserved true love, or did I really not deserve true love and that’s why I didn’t find it? It is easy for some people to feel that they are not deserving must be the answer.

But this feeling can be overcome and if you do overcome it, you’re going to be so much more likely to find that love you deserve. When you know you deserve it, your path opens up to better possibilities for you. This is true in so many other areas of life, but particularly in manifesting a truly loving relationship.

I’m pretty good at manifesting, but I still have a lot of work to do. Reading The Soulmate Experience reminded me to get more of my work done. I have so much still to do, and I know that if I do it, the type of relationship experiences Joe and Mali promise can happen, will happen. I have had enough glimpses in my life to know that I’m almost there.

This book is about Soulmate Experiences in the truest sense. We all have souls, and we can all experience each other on that level. It does not even have to be in the form of a romantic relationship, but when it is, it is like Heaven.

Marie, we honestly can't thank you enough for taking the time to share your experience with our Experience. Love and gratitude, Mali & Joe

A Love Story: Sasha & Sonny

February 24, 2014

LABELS: Love Stories / COMMENTS (4)

Sasha Hill is the voice of an incredible family, the Hills, as they navigate through the tough trials, heartbreaking loses and the triumphant revelations that Huntington’s disease exposes. Sasha’s father is in the intermediate stages of the disease, which has no cure. She is a fierce advocate in the search for a cure for the inherited neurological disease that can be described as a combination of ALS, Alzheimer’s and schizophrenia. Sasha has a 50% chance of inheriting the disease, but is making the choice to live in the present. She is the mother of one beautiful little girl (who is also at risk for the disease), the partner of an incredible man, and a freelance writer/speaker. 

You can follow Sasha’s heartfelt blog thehillsinhd.blog.com as she nakedly shares her fears, memories and quest for the “purpose of it all.” Sasha can also be found at @thehillsinhd on Twitter.

How did you meet, and how did you know that this relationship was special?

I knew Sonny was special for me, immediately.

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Sonny and I met when the timing was anything but perfect. I was married to another person, and I had not been happy in that relationship for a number of years. I had tried, in my own way, to repair the relationship but there was a sincere lack of communication and passion between us and the relationship suffered because of that. After years of feeling lost, isolated and unwanted, I was filled with resentment and anger when I met Sonny.

I had just been transferred into a new role at work, and switched work locations. Sonny was the first person I met, and immediately, we both felt more than butterflies. There was a lightness about Sonny that I was attracted to. He seemed to sparkle, and I felt alive for the first time in years! It was far more than physical (although that was intense as well); it was as though a force had put this man in front of me to show me what I needed to see (even though I was not ready). Sonny was everything (and more) that I had been searching for. He was confident, supportive, kind, and honest. Sonny is a very grateful person, and has showed me the power of appreciation.

There was undeniable connection between us and we both knew we would never have a love like this again. The chemistry was incredible, and the more time we spent together, the more we appreciated one another, and realized that we were meant to be together despite the situation. Our friendship quickly developed into a romantic connection. The timing was not right, and Sonny assured me he would wait for me. We made some incredible life choices to be together, and have been thankful each day since.

Do you feel that you're connected on a soul level?

Yes, I absolutely do!

This is a particularly tough feeling to describe. I would describe it simply as "complete," a genuine feeling of whole-ness. I feel like we are both more of ourselves since being together. In all senses, we brought each other to life.

What do you do to ensure that you continue to experience your special connection?

We do not try to change each other, ever. We do not diminish each other, ever.

Instead, we focus on supporting one another and bringing out the best in the other partner. When we appreciate something the other has done, we say it! When we are happy, we say it! We celebrate our love passionately and romantically, by making our connection a priority. We make time for love making, cuddling, talking, dating, and participating in activities together. We openly share our fears, anxieties, hopes, and interests. We kiss each and every morning, and again every night. We talk things out, and make sure the other person can "hear" us. We also practice "unplugging" regularly, where we focus in on each other, and our family.

We try things! Whether it's food, sports, activities, sexual positions, readings, if one of us is interested in something the other person tries it too. We share what we're "into," and it helps us keep connected with one another. We also have many things in common. We continue to expose one another to our own development, and change and grow together.

We pray. As a family, we say “grace” at dinner, but often instead of a formal prayer, we take a moment and around the table each of us says what we are thankful for, and what is great about our lives. Focusing on the positive keeps us connected with mutual joy. We relish in that joy.

But, aside from what we "do" to keep that connection, there is an underlying current that is shared between us. It's a natural chemistry that has never needed force or effort. We genuinely want to be together and to be happy, and that desire fuels us to be the best person we can be for the other. I always bring the best of me to Sonny, and he does the same.

Do you feel that you have a shared purpose for being together?

I believe our purpose is to BE together. We have both grown in so many ways as individuals since finding one another's love. Our careers have flourished, our personal relationships are healed, we are at peace with ourselves, and with our family. Our purpose is to shed light on each other, and be the beacon that the other needs. Our purpose is to LOVE one another, plain and simple.

What challenge have you faced together?

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The biggest challenge we have faced together, and we continue to face, is the possibility of Huntington's disease.

My father was diagnosed with Huntington's, which is a neurological inherited disease, and as such I am at a 50/50 chance of also developing the disease. There have been many sleepless nights, many tears shed, many questions asked. There have been moments when I would beg Sonny to leave because I felt he deserved "more" than this. We both know he will not leave. This is part of our journey, and we have faced it together and will continue to.

Sonny educates himself on what the disease is, and I support his journey through understanding and releasing any expectations I may have of him, how he will act, what he “should” say. We regularly do "emotional temperature" checks to see where we are both at, and most of all we support each other in moments of doubt by emphasizing the importance of NOW. We communicate. We engage each other in what our fears are. We get vulnerable.

What are you learning in your relationship right now?

I am learning about happiness. I am learning that it's OK to feel happy. That when you allow yourself to focus on what is wonderful and loving in your life, you attract more of it. I am learning how to be happy in small moments, gestures, and things that bring me pleasure. I am learning that happiness is my heart's way of saying "You're on the right path" and to allow that feeling to spread through me. I am learning to live in the present, and to appreciate that moment as it is.

How do you keep your sexual connection strong?

We make time, and we take our time. Sonny and I both enjoy physical contact, and not just in the bedroom! We make sure that our intimacy lasts all day, through sexy messages/notes, inviting affection, and soft kind words. We make a point to tell one another we are wanted, valued and special. Life can be hectic sometimes when you both work, and have children. But, we place intimacy at the top of our priorities, because for us, it is how we show each other love. We kiss often, and passionately.

What advice can you offer other couples to help them keep their connection strong?

The best advice I can give anyone is to appreciate who your partner is and where your relationship is, NOW. Instead of focusing on what your partner is NOT doing, focus, instead, on what you love about them. The more love you focus on, the more love you will receive (and give). 

Stay intimate. Embrace one another, kiss, hold hands, hug, whisper in bed together, send naughty notes – do whatever you need to do, but make sure being connected intimately is valued in your relationship.

What advice can you offer single people who desire a relationship like yours?

Find yourself and love that person.

For years, I tried to be what I thought my partners wanted. I tried to find my self-worth in their opinions of me. If they were mad at me, I was mad at me too. If they felt I was bad or wrong, so did I. It was a life filled with guilt, poor choices, and negative thoughts. The worse I felt about myself, the more negativity I would attract.

By taking the time to learn who I really was, deep in my soul, I have found a satisfaction and security that cannot be waivered by a person outside of myself. I have made mistakes, and some are dark. But, learning to love myself (darkness and all) has meant that when Sonny and I bring our love together we already know our own value. It means we can share the light AND the dark without shame. By learning to love myself, as I am, I have learned to love him as he is.

Is there anything else special about your relationship that you'd like to share with us?

We laugh. A lot.

Sasha & Sonny

Sasha, we're so grateful for your willingness to share your love with us in this way. What a beautiful love story. ~Mali & Joe, authors of The Soulmate Experience: A Practical Guide to Creating Extraordinary Relationships52 Prescriptions for Happiness, and the upcoming book The Soulmate Lover, and creators of Mantras for Making Love

 

A Man with Soul: Gerard Martinez

February 11, 2014

LABELS: Soul Interviews / COMMENTS (0)

My name is Gerard and I am the cofounder of LuvFax. We are the leading online dating background check company. With over 41 million singles looking for love online, we are dedicated to helping them date safely.

Tell us about a deep soul connection that you’ve experienced. In 2008, a relationship I was in ended. I began the healing process and was coming to a good place in my life. Through pain comes growth. Realizing my part in it, and coming to terms with another failed relationship, was an enlightenment in and of itself. I was working on me and growing, ready and willing to share my life with someone. The connection with my own soul was providing this direction.

MartinezDescribe one of your most soul-opening moments. The power of forgiveness. Time is a great healer, 22 months passed and I began again, searching for a partner, my soul mate, through online dating. All the usual popular sites. It was an experience that provided me a better understanding of the opposite sex. Time and again I came home from my coffee date (they are the safest and easiest, I found) knowing the date I just had wasn't really quite the one. I marched on.

Shortly after, I had this moment: My soul was telling me to reach out and look up a woman whom I was once engaged to in 1986. Our breakup was not good. Are they ever? Now mind you, I had this inextricable feeling that I had to do this. I was not suffering from the "phantom ex syndrome"; I want to be clear on that. So I tried looking her up on Facebook and found her. She was a single parent like myself. Now I had to have the nerve to "friend” her. Twenty-four years had passed with no contact whatsoever. I was engulfed with so much emotion.

Seeing her face for the first time after so long brought me right back to her. Love remains the same. She resides in Florida and I am in California. The last 4 years have had its challenges, not including the distance. I am still very much in love with her, albeit unrequited. Our relationship has left an indelible mark on me that will forever be there. This moment has been the most soul-opening of my life.

When and with whom do you feel your most soulful? I feel most soulful when I am writing. Like right now. Putting "pen to paper" allows my mind to slow down, it allows me to reflect, it’s therapeutic, medicinal!

With whom do I feel most soulful? As a single parent of a wonderful, beautiful, soulful 16-year-old daughter. Moments of time spent with her, listening to her share her dreams with me. The life challenges I know she will encounter on her path. Mentoring her and parenting her. Trying always to be there for her.

Where have you felt the most in touch with your own soul? It happened at Community Memorial Hospital Ventura, California. The day my daughter was born. Becoming a father that day, I felt most in touch with my soul. To me that feeling is indescribable, considering the magnitude of the moment. The responsibility that is put on me. I consider being a father an honor.

Who is one of the most soulful people you’ve ever known? My Grandfather. He was a mindful man. Intelligent, hardworking honest. He was born in 1899 and passed away at the age of 97. He had so many wonderful stories about his life on this earth. He graduated from the University of Colorado in 1922. I was one of many of his grandchildren, yet he always seemed to have the time to talk and share his wisdom and life experiences with me.

What qualities do you feel a soulful relationship has? There has to be no limits on me to allow my soul to just be. Being my authentic self first and foremost. Love with no conditions empowers the relationship to grow and evolve. This can be achieved through learning to not let everything bother me. Neither one is perfect, but are we perfect for each other? Do we bring out the best of each other? Do we compliment and compromise with each other? Or, are we competing, controlling and comparing? Grow together, not apart from each other, allowing each other space to also grow as individuals without feeling insecure. Trust, communication, intimacy. Have her trust me by being trustworthy. Communicate, to the very best of my ability, and be a good listener. Emotional intimacy as defined, an event that occurs when the trust level and communication between two people is such that it fosters the mutual sharing of each others innermost selves. It is unbridled mutual self-disclosure.

What do you feel your soul’s purpose is? My soul’s purpose is to continue to evolve. To continue to grow spiritually, and to pass along as best I can what has been given to me.

Is there anything else you’d like to share with us? The unbridled emotion of a true soulmate experience to me is one life's real blessings. Having the re-connection I did was beyond anything I ever imagined. I have often said, "If only the whole world could feel what I feel." That soulful, all-encompassing love could heal the world!

Thank you for sharing yourself with us, Gerard! ~Mali & Joe, authors of The Soulmate Experience: A Practical Guide to Creating Extraordinary Relationships, 52 Prescriptions for Happiness, and the upcoming book The Soulmate Lover, and creators of Mantras for Making Love

 

A Man with Soul: Sanjay Patel

February 5, 2014

LABELS: Soul Interviews / COMMENTS (0)

Tell us about a deep soul connection that you’ve experienced. So far, I’ve only had a few deep soul connections with a few females in my life. One is a dear friend Jackie and she’s also a heart worker. Her nurturing skills, kindness and spiritual gifts and wisdom helped me get my life back on track, after feeling lost in life for a while. She encouraged me to explore my own spirituality and power. Her incredible spiritual gifts like her clairvoyance ability also inspired me. I honestly believe that my angels/guardians/spirit guides bought her to me to get me back on track in life and to live my life from my heart and desires, rather than living the dogma and beliefs of other people in my life. After that life felt better and got better so I’m now enjoying life more than ever.

butterflyI’m also grateful to a few ex-girlfriends who mirrored me and my beliefs at those times, and were loving and showed me my own views and beliefs in life through those relationships. Those relationships were what I could allow into my life at those times, with the beliefs and views I had. With the benefit of hindsight, I can thank those girlfriends for the powerful lessons they taught me and showed me things about myself which I was previously unaware of. Those high feelings of love you feel when are with a partner who you feel gets and understands you are divine and heavenly. As life changes and your beliefs change, relationships change too and for my benefit and theirs, those relationships were left behind and I genuinely appreciate those women and send my love and best wishes. They showed me how could life can be with a compatible partner and enriched my soul.

SanjayDescribe one of the most soul-opening moments of your life. One of my most soul-opening moments was in the summer of 2009, when I got myself into a happy and positive state of being by listening to music I felt uplifted by. I then decided to take advantage of this blissful state of being and use this opportunity to visualise things that I wanted in my life. The deliberate thoughts and feelings caused me to lose myself in my own energy, as if I was one with my soul/inner being. I was lying down on my bed and I could no longer feel parts of my body like my legs and arms as energy rushed through my body, almost like a ship in the sea gliding through the water. It was a unique and pleasurable state of being which I hope I can repeat again sometime.

When do you feel your most soulful? I am a person who is very sensitive to my physical senses. This wasn't easy to deal with growing up but I now know better and have accepted this sensitivity and embrace it. So the simple things in life make me feel the most alive, whether that’s eating a delicious meal or listening to happy, fun and uplifting music I can sing and dance to. I also love reading a good spiritual book such as The Vortex by Jerry and Esther Hicks or The Soulmate Experience by Mali and Joe! :) I also like taking pictures of wildlife and nature on my digital camera.

Being on a beach on a hot and sunny day makes me feel alive like nothing else. The fresh sea breeze, blissful sound of the sea, the softness of the sand and warm sunshine light really awakens my soul and makes me feel at one with life. Add some audio to that of a wise spiritual teacher on my iPhone, and that’s my idea of heaven.

Where have you felt the most in touch with your own soul? One of the places that stands out for me is the home of my late grandparents in India. It’s a huge modern house in a small village of mud huts, with a lot of surrounding land and is 5 minute walk to the beach. Being a small village next to the jungle, you get beautiful wild animals from peacocks, monkeys, butterflies, bird, wild cats and dogs, snakes, very rarely big cats like leopards and tigers, and also Insects and many beautiful multi coloured plants, flowers and trees. The sunshine, colours, wildlife, food and nature make it easy for me to lose myself and to be at one with my soul in those conditions. It’s hard to be anything but happy, relaxed and calm in that environment, compared to my westernised, city life in Birmingham in the UK, which is busy and always in hurry. It also brings back happy memories of playing in the house as a child with my loving grandparents who have since long departed this physical life.

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Who is one of the most soulful people you’ve ever known? One that jumps to mind is the 5-year-old daughter of a friend of mine. With her mother being very wise spiritually, this young angel has been bought up in an environment of love and acceptance, and she beams happiness and acknowledges her own self worth and love, playful sharing her joy and love to the people in her life. She is delightful to see and follows her heart in every aspect of her life. She knows in her heart who she really is and her own personal power.

What qualities do you feel a soulful relationship has? Freedom, communication, acceptance and growth are the keys to a soul mate experience and good relationship in my opinion. Freedom to be yourself and be comfortable as individuals, but also comfortable with each other. And under those conditions, emotional, intellectual and spiritual growth as individuals and as a couple is natural and comfortable. And of course acceptance fully of the other person in the relationship accepting their wants and desires. That is a wonderful basis to have a thriving relationship in.

beachWhat do you feel your soul’s purpose is? In general, I think it’s the purpose of all souls to come into this physical life and rediscover themselves and their own preferences despite which path or challenges you face in life. For me personally, I think my soul’s purpose in this lifetime is to learn peace, acceptance, freedom and contentment with the life around me. I also think it’s my soul’s desire to live life from the heart and to build the life I want specific to my wants and desires. And using my own unique spiritual gifts like nurturing and compassion, to guide, help and heal people who I come across in life with my own knowledge and experiences and growing from these experiences.

I’d like to thank Mali and Joe for interviewing me and send my love and appreciation for their wonderful book, The Soulmate Experience. Sharing this kind of love and wisdom in a book is great for all spiritual people and heart workers and helps people come together with common interests.

Love, light and blessings to anyone who is reading this. If anyone feels inspired to do so, they can connect with me on Facebook or twitter.

Thank you, Sanjay, for sharing a little of yourself with us. ~Mali & Joe, authors of The Soulmate Experience: A Practical Guide to Creating Extraordinary Relationships, 52 Prescriptions for Happiness, and the upcoming book The Soulmate Lover, and creators of Mantras for Making Love

Will You Dare? An Ongoing Love Story

February 4, 2014

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This guest post is by Sky Blossoms, author of the new book Best Thing Ever: Escape Disappointments and Drama and Let True Love Into Your Life.

We met in an idyllic spot aptly named Eden, located on the outskirts of the Sonora desert in Arizona. I had come with my friends to enjoy the hot springs and to take a break from my busy schedule in Los Angeles. Eden’s rustic environment is informal, and that morning my look was vastly different from my usual city makeup, high heels and designer clothes. My hair was loosely tied in a bun, I wore slippers and a robe, and a towel was draped around my neck. I was walking to take a dip in the pool.

On my way, I met a friendly guy with a chess set in his hands. He introduced himself and asked if I knew how to play. I loved playing chess, but for years I didn’t have anyone to play with.

Sky Blossoms Elated RelationshipsOur game had started and never ended… During that game he looked into my eyes and found what he had been looking for all along. He knew in an instant that I was the woman of his dreams. For me it took some time – a week to be exact. We got married in two months.

The day we met was truly magical – filled with miraculous synchronicities. If I were to write the most dazzling fictional love story, I couldn’t have come up with the impeccable scenario that had unfolded. I describe it in detail in my new book Best Thing Ever: Escape Disappointments and Drama and Let True Love Into Your Life.

The excitement of new Love always carries a mystical touch and delight. The real art is in crafting the daily miracles together for years to come. The intimate union becomes a magnifying glass of insecurities and fears. At the same time, it offers unmatched freedom and space of safety, Love, and total acceptance. You become naked not only in the bedroom – your bare soul gets exposed.

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A conscious moment-to-moment co-creation of your partnership and a focused intent to open to Love even more becomes a constant practice. Commitment grows into Devotion – an ever-evolving recognition of the Divine in your Beloved that transcends form, time, and space.

This is why wrinkles and gray hair don’t matter anymore; this is why outer attributes and age become irrelevant.

True Love is actually EASY, because it is natural to our real essence. When we get tangled in insecurities and can’t find the key to our inner prison of fears, relationships seem tough. In reality, these challenges are nothing more than reflections of your inner struggles.

It has been my mission to help others break through confinements of limiting beliefs and unresolved traumas and to open fully to the freedom and bliss of True Love. This is what I teach, and this is what Best Thing Ever is about. It also features gems of wisdom from extraordinary couples like Mali Apple and Joe Dunn.

Nothing has been easier in my life than living together with my husband and maintaining our daily magic. We dream together and craft our lives by design. A few years ago we took a leap of faith, left our full-time jobs and went to travel the world following our creative pursuits. It is an ongoing adventure, exploration, and evolution.

I’d like to share a remarkable game with you that my husband and I played a lot before we even moved in together. No, I’m not talking about chess ;-). During our phone conversations, we took turns describing to each other a day from our future life together. We were dreaming! We were unleashing our imagination and reveling in the idea. The fascinating part is that some time later, many of those scenarios which we enthusiastically designed over the phone, became our real experiences! We truly live our dreams.

Dare to dream! Dare to believe in Love! Dare to want and to expect the extraordinary!

You were born magnificent; claim your birthright to be happy! You deserve your own blissful and soulful relationship, and only you can make it happen!

Will you dare?

BestThingEverSky Blossoms is a sought-after personal guide known for catapulting her clients into the next orbit of personal happiness. Her uncanny talent allows her to see beyond the surface challenge and catalyze a shift in energy and consciousness. Sky’s natural gift is combined with a medical degree and more than a decade of studying psychology, human behavior, traditional modalities, and metaphysical approaches. Find out more at www.BestThingEver.com.

We dare, Sky! ~Mali & Joe, authors of The Soulmate Experience: A Practical Guide to Creating Extraordinary Relationships, 52 Prescriptions for Happiness, and the upcoming book The Soulmate Lover, and creators of Mantras for Making Love

Is There a Soul Mate for Me?

February 3, 2014

LABELS: Wisdom & Inspiration / COMMENTS (3)

Excerpted with permission from the new book Best Thing Ever: Escape Disappointments and Drama and Let True Love Into Your Life by Sky Blossoms, for which we were interviewed. 

When I was about eleven years old, I watched my very first soap opera. The main heroine met the man of her dreams, but soon after that, he tragically died. About twenty episodes later, she met someone else and fell in love again. This was shocking to my childish idealism. How could she be with another person? Isn’t there only one perfect mate for each of us? Don’t you meet your prince, fall in love with him, and live happily ever after?

I grew up understanding that we are not limited to a sole path of happiness, and our lives can take different turns and be joyously shared with more than one partner. It was liberating to realize that we are not bound to a single person for contentment and a blissful life. However, the question then becomes, if we have no pre-determined mate, what makes someone the right partner or the one?

BestThingEverSimply put, it is a mate with whom you can fulfill the purpose of your relationship. Whether a reason behind your romantic union is to experience fun and adventure, or lust and passion, or to feel secure and gain financial benefits, or to have children, the right partner is someone who can help you accomplish your goals. When you yearn for a multidimensional experience—a genuine and soulful connection on every level: physical, spiritual, emotional, and intellectual—the definition of the love of your life also becomes multifaceted.

In this case, the one is a chosen partner with whom you can craft a delightful and lasting relationship and create a truly wonderful and exciting life. Such a romantic union will enrich the lives of both of you in every single way. Your hearts will open to each other, and your aims, goals, and values will be in alignment. You will evoke the best in one another and become a mutual source of inspiration and encouragement. Each of you will feel more empowered and shine your brightest, reach for new heights and have more clarity than ever before. Loving your mate will feel like you are expanding. Your communication will be seamless, and your attraction will be very strong.

When your mutual love and deep appreciation grow, the two of you will frequently feel as one, as if your very souls intertwine and saturate each other. This kind of kinship is often called “soul mates,” because your affinity is much more profound than similar interests and sexual chemistry. The one for you is the mirror of who you are. In order to recognize him, you have to see yourself clearly, feel your core, or your eternal essence, know your power, and keep your heart open to love.

Becoming the authentic—and thus best—version of yourself is all the work you’ll ever have to do for your relationship. The Life-giving Creative Source of the Universe will take care of the rest, including attracting the mate of your dreams. And yes, there is a person, perhaps more than one, who is waiting to become your blissful co-creator of whatever experiences you desire.

Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.
A Course in Miracles by Helen Schucman and William Thetford

Sky_BlossomsSky Blossoms is a sought-after personal guide known for catapulting her clients into the next orbit of personal happiness. Her uncanny talent allows her to see beyond the surface challenge and catalyze a shift in energy and consciousness. Sky’s natural gift is combined with a medical degree and more than a decade of studying psychology, human behavior, traditional modalities, and metaphysical approaches. Find out more at www.BestThingEver.com.

Thank you for including us in your beautiful book, Sky! ~Mali & Joe, authors of The Soulmate Experience: A Practical Guide to Creating Extraordinary Relationships, 52 Prescriptions for Happiness, and the upcoming book The Soulmate Lover, and creators of Mantras for Making Love

 

A Woman with Soul: Magdelena Nazario

January 28, 2014

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I would like to thank Mali and Joe for sharing their gifts through their writing and also giving me the opportunity to share what I am working on. I hope you all will find a little inspiration from my story and stay open to what love has to offer you. Please visit my blog or connect with me on Facebook, Twitter, or Instagram.

MagdelenaTell us a little about yourself. My name is Magdelena and I am the gal behind Callalilylife. The word calla means beautiful, and after experiencing two ugly, life-changing setbacks I decided it was time to take control of my attitude and create a beautiful life for myself. Instead of asking, “Why me?” I decided it was time to ask, “Why NOT me?” Why can’t I use these setbacks to leap forward? Why can’t I have the career I have dreamed of for so many years, but never had the faith in myself to pursue?

Since then I have made it my passion to empower women who, like me, might have a great desire to create more beauty in their lives, but are uncertain how to begin and how to stay motivated. Through my local women's group, blog, and certification as a life coach, I hope to continue to build on this passion. My journey is fresh, honest, and most importantly a continuous work in progress. At any point we can be “reborn” and create an opportunity for change. Big or small, we all deserve the chance to make our dreams come true. I deserve it, and so do you.

Tell us about a deep soul connection that you’ve experienced. I have had the great fortune to experience more than a handful of deep soul connections, but the one that stands out is the one that taught me the incredible power I have within me to forgive. I truly believe a soul connection can only reach great heights if it is mutual, and for this relationship it reached higher heights than I ever thought emotionally possible for me. However, it also profoundly hurt me. There is a quote from The Soulmate Experience that comes to mind: “Remind yourself that a true invitation is free of obligation.” I invited this person into my heart, and they hurt me. What came after all the tears, the anger, and the disappointment of expectations left unmet was the realization that my love for this person was bigger than the hurt. At the core of our relationship there was unconditional love. You can hurt me, but I know you better than this hurt, and I love you more than this hurt. In turn, their love for me was such that their hurting me caused them a similar self-reflection. On both ends there was pain and the ultimate desire to forgive. This is still something I am figuring out, but it is as real of a soul connection as it can get for me! A deep soul connection not only molds you into a wiser person, but a more compassionate one as well.

Magdelena and DadDescribe one of the most soulful people you’ve ever known. The most soulful person I know is my father. He is the most humble man I know. His honest thoughts on life all stem from experience and the openness to learn from everything that has happened to him. Every person he interacts with will either laugh, leave wiser, or both! He will tear up at times when he speaks of his love for his daughters, he is quick to let me know my worth when I question it, and he loves my mother with a loyalty unmatched. No questions, no doubt, and no confusion as to how he feels about all his girls. This to me is soulful—to be so openly vulnerable in life, to be willing to get hurt, and to know that even if you do you will always make the choice to have it build on your personal growth, not destroy it. You share everything you are, and you positively pass it on.

Magdelena

What qualities do you feel a soulful relationship has? A soulful relationship between any two people is open. Open to giving love, and knowing how to receive it. Open to being vulnerable, and open to experiencing the risk of being hurt. Open to asking questions, and staying open to what the answers might be! A soulful relationship includes the one you have with yourself—allowing yourself to love you in the same manner you love others, and recognizing that healthy self-care is essential to extended healthy relationships.

What do you feel your soul’s purpose is? My soul’s purpose is to help others help themselves. This starts with me. Which is my journey right now—helping myself grow emotionally, taking more risks by sharing my thoughts with the world via social media—and I am finding the more I care for my soul and its purpose, the more opportunities arise to help others. This is my ultimate joy and passion.

Thank you, Magdelena, for sharing a little about your life with us. ~Mali & Joe, authors of The Soulmate Experience: A Practical Guide to Creating Extraordinary Relationships, 52 Prescriptions for Happiness, and the upcoming book The Soulmate Lover, and creators of Mantras for Making Love

A Man with Soul: Dixon Flores

December 30, 2013

LABELS: Soul Interviews / COMMENTS (1)

Describe one of the most soul-opening moments of your life.

Being the youngest child brought on an allowance of things I couldn't have gotten away with had I been either of my two older siblings. Not that I could get away with more, but because I learned from their mistakes and covered my tracks more efficiently when I was being mischievous. All this turned into a little punk kid who felt he could do no wrong, who was invincible and without consequences and accountability. I lived a life like a young kid lived life, having a series of meaningless relationships one after another without a clear understanding of what I wanted from life or any relationship.

Me and my dad Alberto when I was a baby. It's my favorite picture with him.

Me and my dad Alberto when I was a baby. It's my favorite picture with him.

Nothing much changed until June 11 2003, eight days before my birthday, when my father died... You see, my father was not the greatest man alive; he had faults and shortcomings, far from perfect. But he was my father, strict and stern when he had to be. He was physically strong and powerful but also the sweetest, kindest and most gentle man I have ever met. He seemed hardened and unattached from a rough childhood filled with pain and poverty, but all those who knew him would laugh at that because they knew of a man who lived to serve his family and loved ones. He had sweet and loving nicknames for me and my siblings that only he was to call us by.

I could fill pages detailing my father and what I cherish of him during his life. But it was his last seconds on earth that defined what I believe is love. On that day, a minute or two before he passed, he became restless, tossing and turning; at this point cancer had won the battle and his soul prepared to leave his body. He was restless because the woman that had spent over three decades by his side was not near and he desperately needed her assurance that he could go in peace.

As my mother rushed into the room, I stood in the doorway seeing the greatest man I had ever met, the man who protected me, loved me and taught me many lessons, lying there helpless against this disease and I could not do anything for him. I was heartbroken and torn inside but still had a calm that he taught me to have in one of his many lessons about difficult situations. My mother went to his side, held his hand and asked if he was okay as she ran her hand across his face gently and lovingly. As all this happened he leaned his head back as if her words and touch were a strong painkiller, stronger than morphine: her love. He mumbled a few incoherent words, gave three deep breaths and passed away.

That instant I knew that life is a series of independent moments linked by their continuity. I realized that, at that last moment in life when I give my last breath, I want that person I love, not perfectly but purely, holding my hand letting me know it is okay... My soul-opening moment was when my father gave the last lesson he would impart on me: "No matter how strong a man or woman is, he or she will need to be comforted by the love he shared with someone else."

This is me and my sweet mom. She went with me to memorial Sloan Kettering cancer center where I donate platelets every so often for cancer patients.

This is me and my sweet mom. She went with me to memorial Sloan Kettering cancer center where I donate platelets every so often for cancer patients.

What qualities do you feel a soulful relationship has?

I think two of the qualities are understanding and compassion. You cannot love someone if you do not understand why they do what they do. We all have a reason that makes us behave in a certain manner; when we look at someone we look at the behavior and not the reason for it. The behavior makes us judge, the reason shows us the why, and when we learn the why, well, that's compassion and it allows us not to try and change someone but accept them for who they are.

What do you feel your soul’s purpose is?

I'd be lying if I told you I know when sometimes I’ll stare at my fridge for ten minutes wondering what the heck I'm going to eat for breakfast! I don't know what the purpose of my soul is, but I do know that I need to help people. I don't have the means to help all the people I would love to help, but doing what very little I can do for those who need it most—that's what I feel I need to do and maybe someday down that road as I’m helping in whatever I can, I’ll figure out what my soul’s purpose is.

Connect with Dixon, who hails from New Jersey, through twitter at @wildebeast82

Thank you, Dixon, for sharing a little about your life with us. ~Mali & Joe, authors of The Soulmate Experience: A Practical Guide to Creating Extraordinary Relationships52 Prescriptions for Happiness, and the upcoming book The Soulmate Lover, and creators of Mantras for Making Love