We know you'll enjoy this fascinating and informative article by KG Stiles, BA, LMT, CAT, CBP on using scents to enhance your sensuality and sexuality!

In this article, you’ll find out how the power of scent can help:

  • Attract your soulmate
  • Strengthen your love connection
  • Enhance your lovemaking experience
  • Get unstuck from creating the same destructive relationship patterns
  • Release an old past love connection and move on
  • Break a bad relationship habit like being obsessive or needy


Aromatherapy means to treat with aroma through inhalation and is a natural, holistic healing therapy. The true practice of aromatherapy is a wedding of science and art in the use of pure plant essential oils to enhance your physical, mental, emotional and spiritual well-being and health.

Essential oils are extracted through distillation from a single botanical source (flowers, seeds, leaves, stems, bark, and roots of herbs, bushes, shrubs and trees). Essential oils represent the “soul essence” of a plant and are highly concentrated; a drop or two can produce significant results.


Aromatherapy works by reaching and influencing the deepest, most primitive human instincts and emotions. Your logical brain is not involved in your process of smell. You actually feel aromatic scents. Unlike the senses of taste, touch, sight and sound, your brain does not filter or interpret scent. Rather scent has an immediate affect upon your brain’s neuroreceptors.

The power of aromatherapy is in scents’ ability to directly affect a chemical response and change in your nervous and hormonal systems.

Because of the unique ability of scent to reach beneath your conditioned mind, it is perfect for retraining your brain. Direct inhalation of scent releases molecules of emotion that act as powerful chemical messengers for creating change in your nervous system. Aromatherapy can support you in breaking unwanted habit patterns and reprogramming your mind for success.


Many of the most powerful attraction oils in aromatherapy have been used for thousands of years as aphrodisiacs to enhance the love bond between couples and increase the energetic frequency for attracting a desired outcome.

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Aromas: Warm, resinous, balsamic, earthy, sweet, woody, spicy
Key uses: Natural aphrodisiac, mood balancing, promotes harmony

East Indian Sandalwood Oil is the most potent natural aphrodisiac in aromatherapy, increasing libido and sexual response. Sandalwood oil is similar to a man’s natural body scent and, though barely perceptible, sends out a highly effective erotic signal to the opposite sex.

Use sandalwood oil to enhance your feeling of connection with your lover. The scent of sandalwood oil will slow your respiration, calm your emotions, and help you shift into a peaceful state of mind. Sandalwood oil opens and clears your emotional centers, strengthening your ability to make contact with an open and compassionate heart. It also fosters self-acceptance and an inner sense of connection, in turn strengthening your relationships with others.

Sandalwood oil’s regulating properties make it excellent for clearing negativity, restoring harmony, and healing the body, mind, and emotions of stored trauma.

Sandalwood acts as a soothing tonic, helping to relieve stress and anxiety and even soothe depression. It regulates and balances the mood, relieving feelings of self-doubt, nervousness, fear, insecurity, and hypersensitivity.


Aromas: Sweet, rosy, floral, exotic, and sensual
Key use: Emotional freedom

A natural aphrodisiac, rose oil’s fragrant nectar and hypnotic lure are legendary. Since ancient times, rose petals have been used during the marriage ritual and to grace the wedding banquet hall and honeymoon chamber. Historically, the rose has served as a symbol of love and inspiration. Rose oil has the sublime power to awaken the human heart.

Rose oil frees the emotions. Its ability to dissolve psychological and emotional pain makes it the first oil to choose for balancing and calming your mind and emotions. It is an excellent companion during major life transitions, such as puberty, marriage, birth, menopause, and death.

Rose oil’s restorative and elevating effect on the spirit and emotions make it useful for healing emotional scars and forgiving old hurts. It helps to gently melt blocked feelings, past hurts and disappointments, and old patterns needing release, making space for fresh growth and new possibilities. It reassures you that it is safe to let go and allow your heart to heal.

Rose oil aids semen production in men and can be used for sexual difficulties. Its aphrodisiac effect may help alleviate impotence and frigidity for both men and women. It may also relieve mood swings from hormonal fluctuations.

Rose oil is also wonderful for wealth attraction as it allows prosperity, joy, and happiness to flow into one’s life.

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Aromas: Earthy, sweet, resinous, woody, exotic, sensual, warm, radiant
Key uses: Aphrodisiac, magnetic attraction

A natural aphrodisiac, patchouli is a powerful attraction oil. It stimulates the sex glands, increasing libido and sexual response. Used historically to relieve frigidity and impotence.

A mild sedative, patchouli oil slows breathing and is one of the most relaxing, grounding, and earthy scents in aromatherapy.

Inhalation of this oil can leave you feeling breathless and overstimulate your senses, so use it sparingly. A little goes a long way!

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Aromas: Sweet, floral, balsamic, exotic, sensual, earthy
Key uses: Neutralizes negativity, stabilizes the nervous system

Softly sweet and warm, Ylang Ylang III (pronounced “eelang” and in the Malayan language means “flower of the flowers”) has an intoxicating aroma with sensual overtones. A native flower of Madagascar and the Reunion Islands, Ylang Ylang oil’s fragrant pale yellow blossoms are used to grace a new marriage bed with a blessing of love and lasting happiness.

The Ylang Ylang tree requires care from human hands for its warm, sweet fragrance to develop. Left wild in nature, the blossoms have little or no scent. Ylang Ylang is often distilled in “fractions,” or parts, meaning the distillation process is halted during different stages of distillation and the oils gathered are taken off. Ylang Ylang III, the last fraction collected during the last hours of distillation, is a slightly thicker, more earthy, and less sweet oil composed almost entirely of sesquiterpenes.

Sesquiterpenes are known to stimulate the liver and sex glands. They also give Ylang Ylang its powerfully relaxant and sedative properties.

Ylang Ylang is useful for dispelling fear and anxiety and is the first essential oil to consider for regulating and balancing the nervous system. It is an excellent natural treatment for mood swings. It also stimulates feelings of enjoyment and self-confidence and can be helpful for overcoming performance anxiety.

Ylang Ylang deepens respiration for slower, more rhythmic breathing and is helpful for treating panic attacks. Studies show that Ylang Ylang oil helps alleviate depression.

Often used in men’s fragrances, Ylang Ylang is a healing oil for men, supporting a man’s connection to and expression of the intuitive side of his nature.

Ylang Ylang synchronizes the mind and emotions and softens mental attitudes and judgments, promoting easier communication. Use Ylang Ylang to smooth tense situations and heal your relationships within yourself and others.


Aromas: Warm, radiant, spicy, sweet
Key uses: Energy tonic, aphrodisiac

Ginger oil’s stimulating properties are well documented. If you are feeling energetically diminished, fresh ginger root essential oil will encourage and sustain your life force energy (chi).

Ginger’s tonic action energizes, grounds, and strengthens your physical body and builds your sexual stamina.

Its restorative properties help you to recover when you’re physically or emotionally depleted or exhausted.

A natural aphrodisiac, its action according to Chinese medicine is warming and strongly yang. Ginger oil regulates the body’s moisture levels, elevates body temperature, and is helpful for treating male impotence.

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Aromas: Sweet, warm, spicy, radiant
Key uses: Warming, natural aphrodisiac, tonic

Cinnamon oil’s warming and stimulating properties help build sexual stamina. It is also used for overcoming sexual impotence and relieving symptoms of frigidity.

Cinnamon oil arouses your emotional and psychic forces and stimulates creativity.

Cinnamon oil may relieve feelings of weakness, depression, emotional coldness, and physical tension. It’s also helpful for recovery after physical exhaustion.


Use this simple method to enhance your sensuality, increase your libido, and enhance your powers of magnetic attraction:

  • Choose one of the above essential oils or a blend. Preferably choose an oil that you have an especially “feel good” response when you inhale it.
  • Choose a particular outcome you’d like to experience.
  • Dispense 1 to 3 drops of your pure essential oil or blend on a cotton ball and begin to inhale.
  • Close your eyes and inhale your scent as you imagine yourself experiencing your desired outcome.
  • Exhale completely, fully letting go of your desired outcome. Your exhalation is an opportunity for you to release any sense of clinging or neediness towards your desired outcome. Trust the universe to respond to your desire.
  • Use long, slow, deep, rhythmic inhalations and exhalations. Allow yourself to relax deeply during your visualization practice.
  • Focus on your desired outcome as if it’s happening right now. Continue to inhale your scent while experiencing your desired outcome (suggested length of this meditation practice is 11 minutes, or as feels right for you).
  • Do this meditative practice twice daily, upon waking and as you’re falling asleep.
  • Notice any intuitive guidance you receive for actions to take and write them down after you finish your meditation. Action is necessary to realize your desire in physical form.

aromatherapyaromaThe length of time it takes to associate your scent with having attained your desired outcome will vary from individual to individual. Usually a minimum twice-daily routine of repeated use of your oil with your meditation practice for up to three weeks is required. Once your neuro-association between your scent and desired outcome are set, your nervous system will automatically begin generating the images and feelings you’ll have when you achieve your desired outcome just by smelling your scent. Simply smelling your scent will generate the feel-good feelings you associate with your desired outcome as if it is happening now.

You want to experience the embodiment and frequency shift that occurs when you realize your desired outcome. This will help you attract ideas and synchronous events that are aligned with your desired outcome and speed up its manifestation.

After successful neuro-association with your essential oil, you may enjoy using an aroma diffuser to dispense the scent of the oils into a room. Japanese scientists studied the effect of lemon essential oil to enhance the ability to focus and discovered that mistakes were reduced 54% when lemon oil was diffused in the workroom. So diffusing essential oils into a room can effectively trigger you neuro-recptors for creating the results you desire.

Please note: Synthetic fragrances or perfume oils rely entirely on your learned conditioned response to an odor for stimulating an effect in your nervous and hormonal systems and do not trigger the neuro-chemicals released by a pure, natural essential oil. To insure quality, always choose oils that are guaranteed to be organic or ethically wild crafted and GC/MS tested for purity. In has been shown that adulterated and synthetic fragrance or perfume oils may cause allergies, headaches, and chemical sensitivities.

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KG Stiles is an Integrative Health Care Specialist and Certified Clinical Aromatherapist in professional practice since 1980. She is licensed as a massage therapist in Hawaii and Oregon and works privately with clients internationally. KG is the Director of Health Mastery Systems and PurePlant Essentials organic aromatherapy and specializes in formulating custom aromatherapy formulas for healthy living.

KG has developed programs of aromatherapy, energy healing, massage, and bodywork for individual clients, the spa industry, resorts, schools, health clubs, and medical centers. KG is a former member of the Complementary Alternative Medicine (CAM) Team at Ashland Community Hospital (ACH). ACH now includes complementary healing traditions such as aromatherapy and caring touch in its patient-centered programs. For several years she served as the National Association of Holistic Aromatherapy (NAHA) Oregon Director.

KG is the author of numerous self-help books and programs and her articles have appeared in national and international magazines like Massage Therapy Journal, Massage Today, Breast Cancer Wellness Magazine, Aromatherapy Today (Australia) and NAHA Aromatherapy Journal.

To purchase any of the aphrodisiac pure essential oils in this article or to learn more, please visit www.kgstiles.com.

Also check out our article "Create Juicy Love that Lasts" over at KG's blog. ~Mali & Joe, authors of The Soulmate Experience: A Practical Guide to Creating Extraordinary Relationships52 Prescriptions for Happiness, and the upcoming book The Soulmate Lover, and creators of Mantras for Making Love