This guest post comes by way of the husband and wife team over at Redeeming Pleasure.

Redeeming Pleasure is the new face of sex and intimacy aids solely for married couples. Our desire is that marriages across the world turn things up a notch in the bedroom and enjoy incredible intimacy. We are nudity-free so both spouses can shop knowing that you won’t see inappropriate material. We offer a wide range of products from vibrators to massage oils. Add SE2013 at checkout for 20% off your order during the months of October and November!

Have you asked yourself lately if intimacy in your marriage has been what you’ve desired? Has it been “out of this world” intimacy? Or has it been stagnating and lacking spice?

There are tons of reasons why intimacy can be lackluster between  spouses. Blame can be shifted to the business of life or the planning that is required in advance. Or how about this one: “I’m too tired.” There are countless reasons why a couple is not experiencing the best sex possible, but we believe that it comes down to one thing more often than not: an unwillingness to try new things. Yes, it can be that simple. Let’s be honest for a second. When you are married to someone, things can get stale and start to look the same. We're not saying you lose interest, but maybe the so-called “intimacy” isn’t what is used to be.

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Wives, are you meeting your husbands' desires? It’s easy to forget that men are generally much more visual than women; they love to be visually stimulated. When is the last time you surprised him with heels and some sexy lingerie? Or how about cooking naked with an apron as he walks in after a long day at work? Don’t brush these things off. If you truly desire amazing intimacy and a husband who is crazy about you, turn it up a notch in the sex appeal department!

Husbands, remember that women are typically more emotional than men. When is the last time you seduced your wife in the kitchen and led her to an erotic massage in the bedroom with candles lit? Or how about fulfilling your wife’s desire to play out a fantasy she has requested before? Don’t brush off her desires either. Your wife may have desires that are even easier to fulfill than that. Maybe she wants to cuddle and build up to sex. Or maybe she wants to kiss for a while before the clothes come off. Study your wife, figure out how she feels loved in the bedroom, and you will be rushing home every day after work!

At the end of the day, spicy intimacy requires one simple ingredient: generosity. When a spouse places the desires of the other above anything else, magical things can happen in the bedroom. A generous lover is the best kind of lover. Selfishness is a cancer that will ruin your sex life. You know that saying that says “it takes two to tumble"? Well, for amazing sex, it takes two generous lovers to achieve it. So, go ahead and start putting the desires of your spouse first and see where it takes you. Mind-blowing intimacy awaits you, trust us!

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Two thumbs up for keeping the passion and intimacy in your relationship fully alive! ~Mali & Joe, authors of The Soulmate Experience: A Practical Guide to Creating Extraordinary Relationships52 Prescriptions for Happiness, and the upcoming book The Soulmate Lover, and creators of Mantras for Making Love